Are Black Men Allowed to Be Bisexual?
Written by Afterparty South on 27 October 2019
By now, we’ve all heard about Tank’s comments regarding men experimenting with oral sex, which sparked a huge debate about what’s considered gay or not. Regardless of how you feel about the subject, it brings up why people even get so pressed when it comes to black men and their sexuality. When it comes to black men and sexuality, it seems to be so black and white with no shades of gray.
This brings up an interesting article I came across about black men and bisexuality. The article titled, “Why Don’t Black Men Get to Be Bisexual?” brings up a startling stat: “while a whopping 52% of the LGBT community identifies as bisexual, the less-than-desirable traits associated with male bisexuality in the Black community leave many men in a state of nondisclosure.” This nondisclosure of their true sexuality can cause these men to go to great lengths to hide their orientation. This can lead to risky behaviors where they aren’t welcome to embrace their sexuality in a welcoming environment. This can lead them to not getting regularly tested for HIV/AIDS and STDs since many can be in doubt about their sexuality and not wanting to appear gay or admitting their attraction to other men.
There are also studies that show that “56.7% of black men who have sex with both men and women don’t receive support from the gay community because they are not open about their sexuality.” Even though, they’re the “B” in the LGBTQ+ community, they’re not receiving the same inclusion.
With little support, these men are often on the – wait for it – the “down low,” the dreaded term that has dominated black culture for the past couple of decades. Many bisexual black men have been demonized and stigmatized for being on the down low, but some bisexual men argue that they’ve had no choice since they have been ostracized by the black community.
What do you think? Is black men’s sexuality too rigid? Can black men experiment without being labeled gay or bi or queer? Do you believe in bisexuality or feel like you have to choose one gender? Can there be fluidity in sexuality? Are you tired of the labels? #TellUsHowYouReallyFeel