Author of “I Hate Black Women” Speaks Out on Oprah, Stereotypes and Reality
Written by Tamara M. on 9 November 2015
Author T.C. Writer may have used the title “I Hate Black Women,” but she actually wants fellow black women to gain insight from this book through her direct language and tough love approach. She hopes that as a black woman herself, they will want to “step back and evaluate their lives.” In this, she also wants black women to look closer at the women they support and even idolize in some cases.
“And why does it seem that women with platforms to bring awareness to the black race choose to focus on material things that will not get us anywhere? You have your Oprah’s of the world who would rather promote her favorite things than bring her race to the next level. With money comes power, respect and millions of people who will listen to you just because of who you are,” Writer explained.
Writer wants to see these powerful and popular black women take a more active and responsible role in how they influence others and not just perpetuate the usual stereotypes and victim mentality.
“Why can’t these Black women use their popularity for something other than to promote fashion, White America’s designers, labels, alcohol, ratchety and stereotypes? I want them to gain a sense of ownership. Meaning own up to the problems that we are all guilty of promoting whether knowingly or unknowingly. I want us to stop blaming the, ‘white man’ when we have the formula to overcome the negativity and stereotypes that continue to haunt us.”
Even though many black women have declared they would never read this book, many have and have even reached out to Writer to show their appreciated for her frankness and honesty.
“Black women who actually read the book contacted me anonymously or outright to say that they identify with the book on a personal level. Some said they knew black women who fit the descriptions I described in the book.”
On the other hand, Writer has received her fair share of hate mail which she considers par for the course.
“Then there was your hate mail bandwagon; voiceless black women who just wanted to be a part of something negative. Black women do not like to be called out even when they are asking to be called out. But if you read the book, you will see that I am using information that can be found anywhere.”
Writer admits that she has been disappointed and continues to be disappointed by her fellow black women but hopes that there will be some sort of redemption.
“I actually want to love these women again. They have disappointed me more than I care to admit. And I am certain that I am not on my own when I say that I am very disappointed how quick we sell each other out, hurt each other, HATE each other, speak ill of each other and are so friendly to every other race.”
As a black woman, Writer feels it her duty and obligation to speak on issues plaguing black women as a whole and can use her personal connection to understand the true reality of being a black woman.
“No other race knows what it is like to be a black woman. It does not matter if your husband is white or your best friend. To be a black woman is something no one from another race is going to stand up and say they want to be. It’s cool to emulate a Black woman, but when it comes to being treated like a black woman, no one wants to take that bet.”
Writer believes too many black women are misguided and controlled by negative images that they don’t even have a true sense of themselves.
“Black women have no clue what it’s like to be a Black woman. If I pose the question, ‘What is a Black woman,’ they will misrepresent the meaning and continuously prove propaganda images are legitimate by their collective behaviors. People tend to follow the masses. I stand with a small army. However, I would tell black women who stand against me that if they are willing to break all illusion and become stronger mentally, then this book will slap them with the reality.”
Writer encourages black women to break the old vestiges of stereotypes and form their own, new identity.
“As black women, we can continue to uphold the image given to us by ‘them’ or we can create our own by building a new us and destroying the old us. Acknowledging our true existence is the key to creating new expletory selves. It will not be easy because the truth is hard for the weak to stomach. The work ahead of us is too vigorous for the weak minded. Needless to say, I will not tell anyone what they must do. I can only say that we have to be strong as a race to face the things that have brought us down for so many centuries and counting… There are too many of us acting like complete fools and we are mixed with those black women who are civilized. The state of black women in the 21st century is the result of too many of them, the ones who act like fools, and not enough of us, civilized black women, who know their worth and what they stand for.”
Taking “I Hate Black Women” a step further, Writer has traveled extensively gathering opinions, insights and experiences for her next project. She has been surprised by participants’ openness to discuss the problems they see with black women as a whole.
“I was surprised that so many people had no problem telling me their thoughts, their hate and their frustrations about black women, as well as giving their opinions on how we can be a better race. I decided to question participants from not only all parts of the world but also different income levels, professions, etc. I titled this book, ‘The Hate Experiment.’ There will be two parts to this book. And what I hope to gain from this book is that black women will stop putting other races before them and stop being envious of women and men who do not have their best interests at heart.”
While Writer acknowledges that her book was shocking and unsettling too many, she admits that was part of her plan to get black women to look at themselves and make changes. However, she did admit her own shortcomings in this arena.
“If I am guilty of anything, it is how I chose to execute my book without presenting a plan/solution to salvage black women. We have been beaten down enough and while I chose the route of using negativity to get a response, I now see why that may not have been the right choice. I will not give up trying for my race. I am not willing to be those people who pretend to help us when they are doing nothing more than adding to our problem. I ask for black women to sit down by themselves and whether they read the book or not, do some thinking. Play out all the events that has happened in their lives and have made them the women they are today. If they choose to be honest, they will know that I have done nothing but told them the TRUTH!”